Hoping For A Better Life? Here's Who Has The Answer
I know, I know… it’s been a long time since I’ve posted.
I’ve been eating bonbons and lounging by the pool while cabana boys fan me with giant palm leaves, but I suppose it’s time to come back to reality.
I’ve been busy managing projects pertaining to my ‘real’ job, and also working behind the scenes to create my first product.
I’m kind of excited about it, but I don’t want to reveal too much just yet because, knowing me, it will change shape, texture, and color about six kazillion times between now and when it launches, and I’d hate to be bound by some earlier description I gave you (I’m kinda touchy like that).
I do have a confession to make though.
I haven’t published any blog posts in the past two months because, even though I’ve been writing regularly, I searched my mind for a topic you really needed to hear from me, and, um -nothing came up.
Maybe someone else has been givin’ up what you need to hear, so it didn’t need to be me? Who knows.
I just didn’t feel comfortable posting something, anything, for the sole purpose of keeping this blog updated.
Maybe I’m not as prolific as some (okay, most) bloggers, but in my opinion, there’s a lot of extra content being published out there. . . and by ‘extra’ I mean ‘superfluous’.
As in, you don’t really need it, but it’s there, so you go ahead and read it anyway.
Kind of like a big bowl of Doritos at a party.
But while I’m on the topic of creating content, I’d like to share something else with you.
(There’s a point in here, if you’ll stay with me for a minute.)
The product I’m working on is in an area in which I’ve personally experienced success in my life, and also where I’ve seen others in my own sphere of influence experience success.
It is NOT based on an idea of success that I have read about in books, watched others attain from afar, wished for fervently, or visualized about daily in front of a vision board.
So why am I sharing this with you?
If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you’ve probably noticed that it’s taking me kind of a long-ass time to create my first product.
You may have also noticed that I am not terribly consistent about posting to my blog.
I would be lying if I didn’t admit that these two factors are intertwined, and that they are somewhat due to a tendency for us creative types to not necessarily want a lot of structure around our time.
(That is my sissified way of saying I haven’t cracked my own whip hard enough.)
But really, there is another aspect to it.
I’m a highly intuitive person. I spend a lot of time asking my own inner voice what I should do next, and even though I don’t always listen to it, it always answers me.
And in the case of my product, it says, Don’t be in a rush. It’s more important to create value than to make bank.
Don’t get me wrong, I love making money. You’d never know it to view this site, but you would if you saw me kick ass at my day job.
And the reason I excel at my career is because I’m creating value there.
In that same vein, here in this online space, I would much rather hold out until I have something truly valuable to offer, than to just make up something that I think might bring in some cash.
And that leads me to my point.
I don’t mean to sound cynical (Don’t you hate when someone begins a sentence with a qualifier like that? It always means they’re going to do the thing they just said they didn’t want to do), but I’ve been around the ‘information products’ industry long enough to realize that there are, ahem, a buttload of people delivering advice about what they wish they could do but haven’t yet managed to actually do yet.
The online world abounds with books, coaching programs, and ‘telesummits’ aimed at women who want to find health and abundance, experience more freedom in their lives, and pursue their dreams.
These programs often feature women who have learned to ‘live life on their own terms’, ‘make a living doing what they love’, ‘break through barriers to success’ and whatever else these women have magically learned to do that they will now share with you in an easy one-two-three step program as soon as you click the big red Add To Cart button and hand over your credit card details.
I know for a fact, peeps, that a significant number of these folks have never actually done what they are now saying they can help YOU do.
I don’t mean any disrespect to any of them (I fully believe everyone has their own path), but to be totally honest, it kind of torques my jaw to see people trying to teach what they themselves have not yet learned.
Okay, I didn’t mean to sound cynical. . .
Rather than harp on what’s not working, I’d like to switch gears entirely.
Because there’s a reason so many personal development and success products are being thrown together by opportunistic marketers and sold by the hundreds and thousands.
People are hungry for the answer.
And they’ll fork over (hey, I've done it) just about any amount to someone who claims to have that answer.
There’s nothing wrong with self-exploration and a desire to further your own personal growth.
But when the quest for personal evolution becomes another form of consumerism (I believe Deepak Chopra called it ‘spiritual materialism’), it’s really no different from whiling away your days at the shopping mall.
(Not that whiling away a day at the shopping mall every now and then is ALL bad. . .)
And in the interest of protecting both your wallet and your sanity, I’d like to throw out an impassioned plea to all who are interested in personal development.
Stop believing there is an answer out there that you don’t know about yet.
An answer you’d find if only you bought the right program, adhered to the right spiritual discipline, adopted the right time management system, hired the right coach or therapist, attended the right spiritual retreat, burned the right incense, drank the right green juice, or prayed the right prayer.
It certainly doesn’t hurt (and quite often helps) to buy books and programs, hire coaches and therapists, drink green juice, and take part in whatever rituals bring you closer to your own truth, but that’s the key: it’s your own truth.
And it’s found only within the deepest recesses of your wise and wonderful self.
Yes, your wise and wonderful self.
(Ya got one, you know.)
No matter how many times you may have tried and ‘failed’. . . no matter how many mistakes you may have made, people you may have hurt, opportunities you may have ‘missed’, or dreams you may have let die. . .
At your core, you are wise beyond what you probably give yourself credit for.
Do yourself a favor and embrace your wisdom.
Hold it close like a lover.
And guard it fiercely against anyone who says you ‘should’ read, worship, study, or adopt any sort of book, program, habit or belief.
Yes, sure, listen to the wisdom of those who have gone before you. (For the record, there are some truly amazing teachers, coaches, and mentors out there.)
But take in only what feels right and real to you, and leave the rest.
Let go of the story that you need an owner’s manual for your very own body and mind.
Allow yourself the privilege of deciding what to do all on your own (no gurus necessary!).
You can’t screw it up anyway. It’s all part of your grand and glorious life: the good, the bad, the ugly, and the spectacularly awe-inspiring.
Try it now.
Put the book down, close the computer screen, turn off the iPod, and ask the small, still voice within what to do. She knows.
Oh, and of course, one more thing. . .
When my product is available, it WILL contain The Answer (wink).
Stay tuned. . .